3 Reasons Why We’re Lonely

Devin Mehra
3 min readJan 22, 2024

Remote work doesn’t help.

Photo by Noah Silliman on Unsplash

In 2023, the US Surgeon General Advisory stated our society is facing a loneliness epidemic.

In previous posts, I’ve discussed the importance of having strong ties, but I have yet to diagnose the reason why we are lonely in the first place.

Today, that changes.

Below are three major reasons why we’re lonely.

1. Too Busy

When you ask someone why they fell out of touch with someone, a common response is, “Life got in the way.”

If you have an 80+ hour work week, there is no doubt other parts of your life will suffer. If you’re a single parent raising multiple children, the last thing you have time for is building and maintaining your friendships.

People are reading this who undoubtedly have too many important responsibilities to have a social life. And for that, I salute you. Taking care of your family and working to make ends are certainly important.

But countless others do have ample time but simply do not prioritize their social life. This is a huge mistake.

If you have the time, commit to your social life.

2. Too remote

For many, who and to what extent we spend time with people boils down to convenience.

How easy is it to meet new people? If you decide to put yourself out there, how much do you have to shake up your day?

Imagine living in a rural county where the next person lives 20 miles from you. The odds of you bumping into someone on a casual stroll are next to none.

Compare that to an urbanite who is surrounded by people at every waking moment. The chances you strike up a conversation with someone who could lead to a new connection are drastically higher.

The concept of being remote goes beyond geographic factors. One must also take into account remote work.

If your job is 100% remote, that eliminates multiple components of your day where you could connect with others. Your commute, being in the office, and lunch breaks would all be opportunities to socialize with others.



Devin Mehra

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