We all make mistakes. Unfortunately some of those mistakes can hurt another person. We’ve been taught the right thing to do in these circumstances is apologize.
While it’s all dandy and nice to apologize, where we can miss the boat is how to go about apologizing to another human being. You may have had the experience of apologizing, only to have the other person lash out even further.
Let’s say you’re with a group of friends and you make an off color joke. One of your friends doesn’t take a liking towards your poorly worded joke. …
Don’t just do something, sit there.
“Don’t just do something, sit there.”
The above quote was uttered by Judson Brewer, who I had the opportunity to listen to (virtually, of course). Brewer is a psychiatrist, author, and professor who’s spent ample time hearing other people discuss their problems.
It came as a surprise then that someone who’s a trained psychiatrist telling his audience to “sit there” instead of doing something.
How does that make any sense?
Our friends and family confide in us their toxic relationships, frustrating work pursuits, and embarrassing personal matters. There’s a reason they’re coming to us…
Instead of making a decision, make the decision when you’ll make a decision.
“How do you release your mind from something you can’t address at this current moment?”
A few days ago, a friend approached me with this question. He expressed his desire to live in the present but was having difficulty doing so due to whatever was troubling him.
We happen to be sitting on a ski chairlift. Therefore, I only had a few minutes to provide a satisfying answer. Call it wisdom from the lift.
My immediate response was to address the problem as soon as possible. Don't…
#2 — Message an old friend.
There’s a lot we can do in a day.
The problem is life happens and we end up spending hours on only a couple of activities. The main culprits are work and screen time. We work all day; then we pop on a form of entertainment until bedtime.
Let’s change that.
I’ve listed 8 things you should consider adding to your day. And none of these activities have to take very long.
“All truly great thoughts are conceived while walking.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
Spend a few minutes each day going for a walk. …
No, writing a paper should not become a nightmare.
“It’s not as bad you think. It’s all in your head.”
This is what my mom told my 5-year-old self before seeing the doctor for a standard shot. Like many young kids, I was fearful of getting a shot. The thought of a stranger injecting a needle into my arm was cause for concern.
“It will just feel like a pinch in the arm.”
Ok, sure mom.
But in reality, it was exactly that — a pinch in the arm.
All that worry and dread, and for what? The shot may…
The more times you “reset,” the better off you’ll be.
“Today is going to be a “#great day!”
This is what you shout at the top of your lungs when you get out of bed in the morning. You’ve committed today is YOUR day.
You’re going to own your workout, ace your job interview, complete your pending chores, and have an adventurous night with your best friends.
Sounds like a good day to me—only one problem.
You overslept and missed your workout window. Even worse, you have less time to prepare for your job interview. …
You only need these visualizations to understand nature vs. nurture.
On the first day of my high school psychology class, my teacher wrote down the following:
Nature vs. Nurture.
My teacher explained a reoccurring theme in psychology — and throughout numerous other subjects— is the interplay of nature and nurture.
As a class, we discussed whether nature or nurture matters more in the development of a person.
Is our success and wellbeing defined by genetics (nature), or is it determined by our environment (nurture)? …
“It isn’t what a man knows, but what he thinks he knows that he brags about.”
In 1903, a man named George Horace Lorimer wrote a book titled Letters From A Self-Made Merchant To His Son. The book is a collection of letters from a wealthy 19th-century businessman to his 20-something-year-old son.
It wasn’t until halfway through the book that I realized the letters were not real. Lorimer had fictionalized the characters and the letters.
I wanted the letters to be real. Why? Because they were written so dang well.
So dang well, I decided to share with you…
Hard decisions must be made.
COVID-19 has been tough on all of us. We fear for the health of ourselves and our loved ones, unemployment has soared to historical numbers, and many of us have been stuck at home for almost a year now.
Amid the struggles, one nice component of a pandemic world has been the gift of time. Overnight, many of us received hours back into our days.
Time spent commuting to work — gone. Parties on the weekends — no more. Long weekend trips to visit extended family — a thing of the past.
Time has been…
It’s not just what you do, but deciding when to do what you do.
Have you ever woken up one day and told yourself, “today I’m going to be super productive!”
I assume most of you have, and if you’ve never experienced this before, you might need to light a fire under your ass.
After a nutritious breakfast, you get after whatever you need to get done. Finish that script. Draft that all-important email. Clean the upstairs closet.
You crush your morning task(s) and feel like a million bucks. You decide to take an hour-long lunch break and return to…