How To Lose Friends & Piss Off People

#3 — Continuously give unsolicited advice

Devin Mehra
4 min readFeb 5, 2024
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As a civilization, we’ve gotten pretty good at pissing people off.

We offend, gossip, stonewall, and my personal favorite word, gaslight others.

If Dale Carnegie, the man and author behind the book How to Win Friends & Influence People witnessed how we treat one another today, he may think society collectively decided to disregard his teachings.

Poor Dale.

What Dale might not realize is how much society has changed in the last hundred or so years since he published his landmark book in 1936. We are more politically polarized, isolated, and lonely now than ever before.

It’s gotten so bad, that the United States Surgeon General announced we are facing a loneliness epidemic.

And no that is not hyperbole.

If top administrators are saying this is a major societal problem, then it’s time we take a look at ourselves.

In the year 2024, we need to acknowledge human decency is not where it should be. Don’t believe me? Take a scroll through Instagram or TikTok and witness the kinds of comments people leave each other. You would think people get paid to say hurtful things to people they have never met.



Devin Mehra

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